Debra Lobel

Writer in the Digital World

Month: January 2017

What Does it Mean to be a Woman?

Do You Know What it Means to be a Woman?

What Does it Mean to be a Woman?

What Does it Mean to be a Woman?

What does it mean to be a woman? Recently, a young man told me he was a woman.  I have known him since he was a toddler and I never got the impression that he was a girl or in the wrong body.  He was a rough and tumble kind of kid with that devilish look in his eye.  Not that there aren’t girls like that, but I never thought of him as a girl.  He is in college now and still gives me the impression of being a man.  There is nothing about him, except for his words, that would lead me to believe that he is a woman.

I asked him a question: “What is a woman?  How do you know you’re a woman?”

His response was, “I feel like a woman.”

To which I replied, “What does it mean to be a woman or to feel like a woman?”

He didn’t have another answer.  Then I tried to answer that question myself. And I couldn’t.  I don’t know what it means to be a woman.

So now I’m asking you, readers. Continue reading

The Intersection of Two Spectrums

The Intersection of Two Spectrums – Autism and Gender

The Intersection of Two Spectrums

The Intersection of Two Spectrums

Two decades before same-sex marriage was legal in California, my partner Pauline and I had been in a long-term, loving, committed relationship when we asked our Rabbi to perform a commitment ceremony. He kept us on pins and needles for a couple of years until he agreed, modifying the traditional Jewish wedding and calling it a Covenant of Love. Pauline’s biological adult son, Paul, walked us down the aisle. Our friends and family celebrated with us. Months later, like most couples, we longed to raise children together. Continue reading

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